The Dissappearing Enginerd

Ladies I want you to pay close attention to this story. I met a man at one of my favorite places, a little ritual that I like to call Karaoke Tuesday. I was there with a couple (shoot me in the face for being single, and at a karaoke bar with a  couple), dressed in boots, jeans, and a not so special shirt. pretty casual. Anyway, I sang a song, and was sitting at the table with said couple, when I noticed a very cute man from across the room looking at what appeared to be ME! I of course did the whole flirty routine, which consists of: looking at the man, catching his attention, holding his gaze for several seconds and then suddenly becoming very interested in the conversation at your own table,  and then looking away from the man. I did this little thing a couple of times, when he finally had the balls to come over and talk to me. A bright light just shined down on that man, and angels sang aaaaaaaaa.


*Most men don't have it in them to approach a woman, maybe it is because they have been turned down one too many times, I don't know, but usually the ones who DO come over and talk to you, are mumbling idiots and not worth talking to. 


This man however, had it in him, and was perfectly charming. He asked me just enough questions about what I was interested in, what I did for fun, and for a living. I didn't mention that he was gorgeous, he was tall, with chestnut hair, and I would soon learn that he was pretty chiseled too. This man turned out to be quite a brain as well. He was soon graduating from MU with an engineering degree! When he told me this, he refered to himself as an Enginerd, let me tell you, he was anything but a nerd. Of course I went home with him. I had never gone home to a stranger's house from the bar, but I thought that it was about time I started trying new things. I was 23 for goodness sake. So we left the bar after it closed, and went back to his place. I am a lady, and I DONT have sex on the first date (At this point in my life anyway). So he tried his damnedest, to get  me naked, he got naked pretty quickly, and snuggled right up next to me. It was probably the hardest thing I have ever done, not jumping his bones, but I was far too interested in the idea of a long haul relationship. 


So the next day, we exchanged numbers, and he called me a couple of times. He invited me to his place, I invited him to mine, but I would never let him sex me, no matter what he tried. I should have known that all he wanted was to sex me, but I was too busy holding on for more. I shot him down each time, knowing full well that the woman is ALWAYS in control of these things. He just wasn't trying the right thing. One day, he decided to not call, or respond to me, poof he was gone, and this is what I have learned!


Lady Rule #3 
If he doesn't ask you out on a REAL date, in public, then he probably only wants sex. You should either take advantage of this fine opportunity, or move on. Don't get in the way of him getting it someplace else, if you don't want to give it.


Man Rule #3
If you are an intelligent good looking man, looking for sex, you could probably get this by just telling us up front at the bar that, that is all you want. 


* I would have sexed this Enginerd, but I was too interested in hoping that he would want more than that from me.